tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post3437205680250192516..comments2024-01-24T05:27:42.654-06:00Comments on Coloradolady: The Voice Of Your CommentsColoradoladyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16312809532968928183noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-36718314874878151852012-09-04T16:56:17.041-05:002012-09-04T16:56:17.041-05:00I once had a supervisor tell me, "your intent...I once had a supervisor tell me, "your intention is not what is important, only the interpretation matters."<br /><br />At the time I thought it was unfair. But upon reflection he made sense. It was definitely an eye opener. <br /><br />In his defense he repeated the statement when our team discussed the way he talked to us too. Only then he said you are right my intention is unimportant.suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16972719320760604258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-46537155335650578512012-09-02T20:05:31.911-05:002012-09-02T20:05:31.911-05:00It's true that email and blog comments cannot ...It's true that email and blog comments cannot convey tone. I'm sorry that this happened. I've not yet been sent any comments that were questionable in tone. If I were, I simply would not publish the comment and wait and see what other comments I received from this reader. I really don't know anything specific about the situation you mention, but know a blog post is not an appropriate place to air your "dirty laundry" or try to make a point at the expense of someone else. You've done what you can.<br />Blogging is about getting to know others and sharing your specific loves. Keep on sharing! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14919371267142800862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-52696416729795415162012-09-02T15:44:22.793-05:002012-09-02T15:44:22.793-05:00Gosh that is an awful thing to have happen to you....Gosh that is an awful thing to have happen to you. It's hard with written words as they are just read the way they are. When you speak verbally your tone or expression sets the words. <br />You did the right thing apologising =DCheriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02401901024509719512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-65260029354657723312012-09-02T15:35:49.321-05:002012-09-02T15:35:49.321-05:00Sorry this happened to you...it happens to me all ...Sorry this happened to you...it happens to me all the time. I get the same response from verbal communication and I too do not mean what others hear. I have gotten in more trouble when I was working because someone 'heard' something entirely different from what I actually said or meant. Charlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16006372222854578391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-41453160522577414602012-09-02T15:01:09.522-05:002012-09-02T15:01:09.522-05:00This is a well written post and a wise reminder. ...This is a well written post and a wise reminder. I also know how it feels to have have something I've written or spoken with the best of intent misunderstood.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07763395622211185863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-69230034963283238282012-09-02T14:46:07.407-05:002012-09-02T14:46:07.407-05:00I have also been misunderstood and it is heart wre...I have also been misunderstood and it is heart wrenching...You did what you could to clean it up, now you can let it go. =) It will be okay. =) Amy, a redeemed sheephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12324661637036868565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-41266345834891526992012-09-02T13:54:24.926-05:002012-09-02T13:54:24.926-05:00I'm so sorry this happened to you but this gre...I'm so sorry this happened to you but this great post is a reminder to all of us that words do have power! Sometimes I think I'm being funny/clever and then I re-read it and think...hmmmm maybe not. I am guilty of a quick comment sometimes and this will remind me to be careful with my words. That said, others interpret our words through their own eyes and we can never be sure what someone else will see. Hugs, LindaLinda @ A La Cartehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16356471099319932835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-7105010267677586112012-09-02T12:54:38.215-05:002012-09-02T12:54:38.215-05:00I think moods, circumstances and backgrounds all p...I think moods, circumstances and backgrounds all play a part how people relate or not to others. Even if you said something that someone did not agree with, that is ok. Really it is OKAY! We don't all have to think, act, or believe alike or about the same things. <br /><br />Shame on them actually for casting stones and jumping to conclusions over an obvious misunderstanding on their part. Hashing it out on some kind of band wagon on a blog is double shame on them.<br /><br />Don't beat yourself up over this...the people who get to know you from your own blog know or will soon know where your intentions lie. I don't blame you for feeling bad about it however, that shows me that you were not acting as the other person thought all along.<br /><br />Enjoy your weekend.Angie L.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-6125917091107717452012-09-02T11:57:49.289-05:002012-09-02T11:57:49.289-05:00Should the person taking the comment "out of ...Should the person taking the comment "out of context" be a Christian, it behooves her or him to contact the one posting and e-talk about it. We're all struggling, some of us mightily, and, as Pastor Begg would say, "the pagans watch Christians closely. <br />It appears there's a missed opportunity to right things and you've done your best. Give it up to God and let it go.Thistle Cove Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15722295191884810953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-63539574958432626842012-09-02T11:04:06.496-05:002012-09-02T11:04:06.496-05:00I read and reread comments or messages before I se...I read and reread comments or messages before I send them. My words have been taken the wrong way several times, and in one of those instances the person who took it the wrong way addressed the comment publicly on her blog but twisted my words to her interpretation AND used my name. I was very hurt and upset about the whole situation and actually took a break from blogging. I realized though that I wasn't the one who had caused the problem, and what ever issues the other person had were hers and I had done everything I could to fix it. Have a great weekend and continue to comment and participate. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-21175842261399311042012-09-02T10:35:15.712-05:002012-09-02T10:35:15.712-05:00Do you know what Suzanne.. I always put my foot in...Do you know what Suzanne.. I always put my foot in it. What i love is typing my words better than saying them. Sometimes even voicing the words can be taken out of context. I have always enjoyed your wonderful blog and your words of encouragement, wisdom and sharing. <br />Sometimes others are having a sensitive day but that is when we sit back and think then maybe go right to the source and ask did you mean????...<br />Not to worry I skim on things I might not understand and just go to the fun...<br />it was a blue full moon the last 2 days...it seems everyone had a moment or two even at work...<br />hugs and double hugsDebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07765349750174416368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-40774176326188760892012-09-02T10:01:15.529-05:002012-09-02T10:01:15.529-05:00My words seem to always be taken the wrong way. Ki...My words seem to always be taken the wrong way. Kinda use to it by now. But it was very wrong for that person to just out you in a blog post instead of emailing you first to clarify the meaning of your words. It would have saved everyone from a bunch emotions that didn't need to happen. I hope the rest of the weekend goes better for you. Keep on commenting it makes your soul feel good.Ann Marie @ 16 Muddy Feethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18043510561974011878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-59985375737091518172012-09-02T09:50:50.248-05:002012-09-02T09:50:50.248-05:00It's an awful thing to have your words, and ev...It's an awful thing to have your words, and even worse, the intent of your heart, misinterpreted, and so much easier to do in print, without body language or inflection to shed some light. So sorry this has happened, and I think you did the right thing to apologize, whether they accepted it or not. Charlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08375151972784634379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-6735501348532062062012-09-02T09:09:28.629-05:002012-09-02T09:09:28.629-05:00I happen to read the blog that you refer to as wel...I happen to read the blog that you refer to as well and when I read that post, thought to myself that I had not read any comments like that. I have read all the comments to those post and did not remember any like that were described. <br /><br />I went back to "see who the nasty person was" as you say, and I have to tell you, I did not see how your comment could have been taken in the manner that it was. Maybe there are other factors in this that are not being seen to the general public.<br /><br />Your post however, serves us all to be aware of how we say things. The problem with written text is the lack of emotion and sound behind the words. In communication, that plays a big part of how we interpret words of others. <br /><br />Rudeness is never interpreted the same way by two people, so remember that. I "got" what you meant by your comment and I am sure I am not the only one who did.<br /><br />Jane <br />from VirginiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-15690960458893819822012-09-02T09:02:41.837-05:002012-09-02T09:02:41.837-05:00I'm so sorry. Don't beat yourself up too m...I'm so sorry. Don't beat yourself up too much about it. You sent the email to apologize and there isn't much else you can do. The blogger can either accept it or not. Try not to dwell and have a great holiday weekend! HUGS!!!Darling Jill Quiltshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11126420789726965856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-18298921212192828752012-09-02T08:45:21.633-05:002012-09-02T08:45:21.633-05:00Oh Suzanne, I completely understand what you are s...Oh Suzanne, I completely understand what you are saying. Hand raised here for being guilty of putting words to paper, because I love funny, and the interpretation not as intended. Like you, I would never ever intentionally cause hurt feelings.<br /><br />This is a great post because it is a good, gentle reminder that we all have to be more aware of our words. Always Nestinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10939539258386341825noreply@blogger.com