tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post8531489037014791985..comments2024-01-24T05:27:42.654-06:00Comments on Coloradolady: A Thought on ExpectationsColoradoladyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16312809532968928183noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-49039334317805665642010-03-13T11:08:20.897-06:002010-03-13T11:08:20.897-06:00Oh, Suzanne, *sigh*
I feel your disappointment.......Oh, Suzanne, *sigh*<br />I feel your disappointment....and, probably at one time shock. The thing I think is that we only have expectations from people that we really trust with ourselves, and that, means the expectation has a bloodflow. When it is broken, we are afraid we will bleed to death......but, I found instead, the break, in truth, is a lifeline. Sort of when the umbilical chord is cut. You do not know how you will breath again, but you find you do.....And, more honestly. Because now you know, even the best relationships have the potential of great disappointment. Now, you must strive to do the right thing, knowing it might not be reciprocated in the way you would hope. Doing the right thing, afterall, is the right thing, regardless of the consequences, in all areas. You also will find, sometime down the road, a need to let go of your idea that you always fulfilled others expectations, also. It takes a long time to realize that we are all fallible and cannot replace what only God holds. In a way, now you are free to love because you don't do it depending on what you receive from it, you do it because it is right. If you knew me better, you would know I am the Queen of Disappointment........lol.shebrewshttp://shebrews.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-85850983969583639192010-03-11T19:32:37.688-06:002010-03-11T19:32:37.688-06:00Its a tough one for sure. I think I often don'...Its a tough one for sure. I think I often don't meet other peoples expectations. I'm a bit oblivious sometimes to how other folks think things should be.<br />My (grown up) foster daughter is often disappointed because she has great expectations and reality doesn't measure up. Maybe I'll show her your post.<br />Kathyconcretenprimroseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12615278788874155439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-27990041219501121982010-03-10T15:22:58.353-06:002010-03-10T15:22:58.353-06:00Nice post, myself, I don't think I have many e...Nice post, myself, I don't think I have many expectation from people anymore. This comes to me at the age of 65, I live a much freer life now. I am not sure how to put this feeling but it is much different than my early days, oh well you said it good. Like a dogs life, my Maggie.<br />donnaGEOCACHING WITH GRAMMY AND THE PAPILLON PRINCESShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10318355690220894430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-7894628965329009462010-03-10T09:31:26.890-06:002010-03-10T09:31:26.890-06:00In some ways, the older I get, the less I expect o...In some ways, the older I get, the less I expect out of others. I probably take my husband for granted and he does me, but not in a bad way. He and I are a good fit and after all these years we ...dare I say it?....know what to expect from each other. <br /><br />With extended family and friends, I know who will always be on time, who will always offer to lend a helping hand, and who is caught up in something they aren't ready to reveal just yet which often closes them off to many. Are these expectations or acceptances? <br /><br />Others may have expectations of me that I am unaware of, and at the risk of sounding callous, that is their problem. I am good at fulfilling commitments, so I have no worries there, but if someone assumes I will do a certain thing or feel a certain way, they could be very mistaken. <br /><br />I don't like to disappoint people, but if I am not true to my own beliefs and feelings, I am disappointing myself and that can be a very hard thing to shake.Knittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10194307677813885580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-2790375277390569422010-03-09T17:17:01.872-06:002010-03-09T17:17:01.872-06:00You certainly have written on a pretty deep topic ...You certainly have written on a pretty deep topic here. It gives a lot to think about!ClassyChassyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12645241442596037812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-66118620763861222042010-03-09T17:10:03.669-06:002010-03-09T17:10:03.669-06:00My old shallow mind got lost after the first parag...My old shallow mind got lost after the first paragraph. I will start searching for a publisher. Someone that can write like this needs a book out. All I know for sure is you will make the "More from Blogher" again. Just remember, most of our lives are what we make it. Be strong.LVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01853494568526683537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-79700318992374117912010-03-09T14:57:00.814-06:002010-03-09T14:57:00.814-06:00Hmmm, a little deep. I think you are talking abou...Hmmm, a little deep. I think you are talking about doing some inner work. Well, dogs are wonderful and they don't have expectations, but my brother had a dog once that was abused by a man with a paper and everytime my brother was around the dog was scared... So people who have bigger brains and bigger memories are bound to have silent expectations and memories.<br /><br />The thing is this - if you can work through and get past these expectations - if you go through the pain and struggle - then when you come out to the other side - I think you're a better and stronger person.<br /><br />So did I miss the mark all together?<br /><br />sandieChatty Cronehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02232040517217024681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-88314313047696181882010-03-09T12:17:05.938-06:002010-03-09T12:17:05.938-06:00Suzanne,
This really hit home with a situation in ...Suzanne,<br />This really hit home with a situation in my life, I am going to reread this again....I think I understand what you said and it opened up a lot of thoughts! Thank you for this!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08956372943613435575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-47445035990981038122010-03-09T11:38:55.996-06:002010-03-09T11:38:55.996-06:00Hum definately a lot to digest for sure. You have ...Hum definately a lot to digest for sure. You have made me pause and think that's for sure. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-53476594572391342442010-03-09T11:14:56.080-06:002010-03-09T11:14:56.080-06:00Such a timely post!! Gives pause for a lot of tho...Such a timely post!! Gives pause for a lot of thought and soul-searching. Thanks for opening the door to do so.<br /><br />Have a wonderful day.Journeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11629491545803637567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-84150221738000502832010-03-09T10:47:39.517-06:002010-03-09T10:47:39.517-06:00Are you peeking in my windows??? WOW....you have r...Are you peeking in my windows??? WOW....you have really stopped me in my tracks this morning. Wow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7924158834708722465.post-32724863205527703472010-03-09T10:36:27.479-06:002010-03-09T10:36:27.479-06:00Hmmmn, a lot to contemplate. I think we all have ...Hmmmn, a lot to contemplate. I think we all have expectations of others and ourselves. We are all just humans and we fail to meet those expectations. It is good I believe to set a goal to work towards for ourselves even though it may not be met in our lifetime. We can't set goals for others though and should be forgiving towards them when they don't do or say things that we think they should have. Especially, when we know we may have also disappointed them at some time too. <br /><br />Hope I haven't misunderstood what you were saying. This is just what I understood from reading your blog. Have a great day!arkiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15585693280918181242noreply@blogger.com