For many parents, there is a certain dread when facing new situations with preteens and teens. The warning signs are usually there when first experiences are about to take place. I have found it most comforting to face these situations head on and talk about whatever is on the horizon.
Young girls of today start shaving a lot sooner than most moms want. I am sure you will agree that wanting it to take a back seat instead of front and center at such an early age will not prolong this experience. Most girls will display signs of curiosity and start asking questions.
Young girls of today start shaving a lot sooner than most moms want. I am sure you will agree that wanting it to take a back seat instead of front and center at such an early age will not prolong this experience. Most girls will display signs of curiosity and start asking questions.
That is the cue for moms to decide what main points need to be covered on the topic and plan on initiating the conversation in advance. By taking this approach, it will make the transition of the first experience so much easier and that a pleasant experience is had for everyone involved.
When sitting down to talk about important aspects of a first experience such as shaving, it is important to decide what is the main point of safety you'd like to get across to your teen. Safety and knowledge on staying safe is of the utmost importance in many parents minds.
When sitting down to talk about important aspects of a first experience such as shaving, it is important to decide what is the main point of safety you'd like to get across to your teen. Safety and knowledge on staying safe is of the utmost importance in many parents minds.
It is also important to suggest certain products that have been tried and tested and known to deliver the results you are after. When suggesting a razor, it is important to have a product that not only leaves you feeling incredible with a super-smooth shave but leaves you with amazing-looking skin.
The Venus Embrace is just that type of razor, with its 5 blades plus a Ribbon of Moisture for a comfortable shave and with fewer nicks and cuts than Venus Divine. Another feature important from a mom's standpoint is that the Venus Embrace has a soft grip handle for great control.
One of the questions that came up in the talk I had with my own daughter was how to get a silky feel after shaving and not a rough feel to the skin. It was an easy decision to suggest she not use her dad's shaving cream but instead try Satin Care when shaving.
One of the questions that came up in the talk I had with my own daughter was how to get a silky feel after shaving and not a rough feel to the skin. It was an easy decision to suggest she not use her dad's shaving cream but instead try Satin Care when shaving.
Along with being gentle and for ladies, I knew she would enjoy the sparkling, fruity scent of this shaving gel, and she would certainly get the silky legs she was wanting by adding this to her shaving routine.
The answer to addressing the firsts that are sure to come with preteens is that it is important to be aware these situations are coming. It is also important to be pro-active in discussing issues and important facts in each situation.
By being pro-active it is easier to suggest trusted brands and products you know will make the situation a more pleasant experience and the transition a little less stressful....at least for the moms!
The Venus Embrace razor and the Passionista Fruit Satin Care shaving gel are two products that help take the worry out of teens who are shaving for the first time.
When you notice your own daughter starting to pay more attention to her appearance, you want to make sure she's getting the right information, and it is coming from you and not others. If you need some more great tips for first-time shavers, check out the Venus website.
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I remember when my daughter asked me the first time to shave her legs. I know I was very supportive, and I showed her to do it the right way.
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The Lord has not blessed me with any children yet, but if I had a daughter, I would be open to any questions she might have. I would be honest with her and let her help me pick the "scents" for stuff like deodorant and shaving gel.
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my daughter is only 4 mos old but when gets older im going to teach her to be honest and to be happy !
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OH SUZANNE you must be psychic, my daughter will be 11 in a few days and the pressure is on to start shaving as some of her friends are starting! I wasn't allowed to shave or wear make-up until 12 so i was kinds following those guidelines for her! But everyone i've talked to with daughters say i should give in at least on the shaving since middle school is this fall! ~HUFF~SIGH~ What do you think? Are they right?
ReplyDeleteMy daughter is only 4, but I keep my explanations simple and always remind her how pretty and smart she is!
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make sure you talk WITH Them not at them.. kids hate that!
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My kids are still to young to know. but I think about it.I want to have a good clam relaxed conversation and let me ask questions as well. amypugmire@live.com
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Honestly, I can't remember how old my now-15-year-old was when she started shaving. It was NOT a big deal. I gave her a couple of suggestions (watch out for those knees and ankles) and got her a good disposable razor. Which, BTW, was a Venus. They make great razors! :-)
ReplyDeleteIt is certainly not easy to be a parent, especially tackling those tough “first” conversations with my kids. But the best way I prefer is openness and be honest and straight forward. That’s the way I preferred to be treated, so, I’ll do the same with my kids.
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I'd say to just be honest as much as possible.
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I try to be open with my son so that he will hopefully be open with me!
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I think if you have a good relationship with your kids as they're growing up, all important conversations will come much more naturally.
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Being honest and being a good listener helps.
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Be honest and realistic are best tips from my experience.
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ReplyDeleteMy daughter turns 11 in August, but is only going into 5th grade, so fortunately, some of the peer pressure is delayed. However, she has started asking questions about shaving, so we have talked openly about it. American Girl puts out a book about girls' bodies. I found a copy at a garage sale. Whenever my husband is gone on a business trip, my two daughters (ages 8 and 10) and I sit down in the evening and read it together and discuss it. It has become a great "girl bonding" activity for us, and it has brought up many topics like shaving, bras, and first periods. By doing this, even my 8 year old feels pretty prepared!!
ReplyDeleteSuzanne you read my mind! I L O V E the Venus products and the Satin Care shaving cream! My girls are always looking for ways to keep their legs soft and silky!Rebekah had her legs waxed. She is a brave girl having had to let the hair on her legs grow out for 2 weeks! UGH! She has the softest legs ever!
ReplyDeleteI will put a blog post up tonight and add this too! Thank you for this! I think we need to listen as well as talk with our kids today! I am very glad mine are older! Sigh!
ReplyDeleteI would say to be patient and understanding. Share with them a personal childhood/teenage memory of your own!
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My daughter is too young. I'm going to teach her just be herself and honest
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be open and honest and give them truth or else the world will give them their version of it! Thanks for a super giveaway!
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ReplyDeleteMy tip is to be calm and treat your child with respect; treating them like an adult will allow them the choice of starting to act like an adult.
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My daughter is only (almost) two, so we haven't had those big conversations yet, but when we do, I hope to be honest and listen well.
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just try to be open and honest about everything so it doesn't feel awkward or embarassing....instead it is just part of life.
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things like shaving are simply a fact of life - just be open and honest - sharing a mother -daughter day helps too!
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my daughter is still a baby so I haven't had to have any "talks" with her yet
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Tackle conversations especially tough “firsts” with my daughter is not too easy, some of the ways were having the conversation with her honestly and to share my past experience, she would be interested to listen and learn.
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My daughter was pretty easy - just try not to be uptight (I was on occasion) and it's much easier :)
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I don't have kids, but as a child I appreciated Mom being honest and available
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I think being open with your kids is my best advice. Thanks for the chance to win!
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ReplyDeleteGirls are growing up so much faster than my daughters did. I know they didn't press for shaving before I thought they were ready. They had watched me often enough to understand the basics and I had covered the basic safety issues as part of our ordinary conversation. I think I was very lucky :)
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I am just honest with my daughter.
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When we have one of those 'firsts conversations', I just make sure my kids know that they can ask me any questions.
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Don’t be afraid to tell them you don’t know something, but be prepared to find the correct answer
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we're very honest with our daughter so those firsts are easy. sweepmorey at gmail dot com
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ReplyDeleteMy best tip is to approach the conversation and answer only the questions your child has at the time - don't overwhelm them with information they may not be ready to deal with.
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Because I don't have children of my own, I can only say what worked for my own mother. She had a rule: if you are old enough to ask, you are old enough to know. She stuck to this rule and I stayed out of trouble and knew I could ask her anything. I think that is a pretty smart way to tackle any first!
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